STIs aren’t really the preferable topic to talk about especially if things are getting heated up between two people. But, it is an important topic to talk about. In the era of widespread, serious sexually transmitted infections such as super gonorrhea, it is imperative to take your chances and have that conversation before things get out of control.
If that’s not enough incentive to have this seemingly awkward conversation – bear in mind, the US has the highest STIs rates in the modern world. As per the Centre for Disease Control and Infection, over 2 million cases of STDs were reported in just one year in the country. Having a conversation about STIs with your partner doesn’t seem that bad now, does it?
Try to have this conversation before things heat up.
Finding out what you are getting into before you actually do is a smart thing to do. But how do you initiate this conversation or ask the question without making your partner uncomfortable? We suggest the sandwich trick – where you mix two things up like say something positive about your connection and relationship with them along with raising your fears i.e. STIs. The sandwiching of a complement with a genuine concern would make the conversation ahead quite smooth and simple.
Don’t imply having STIs is shameful
Go into the conversation realizing that STIs are very common and there’s nothing embarrassing about having one. By doing so, you can ensure that you don’t sound insulting or judgmental while speaking about it.
Don’t ask “have you been tested” directly. Contrary to what you may think, the question doesn’t really help you in getting them to open up and confide in you. Since there are different tests for different STIs, they might have been tested for one but still be unsure about others.
Make themselves understand that using a condom isn’t enough.
If your partner shrugs your concerns off by saying that since you guys are using protection, it shouldn’t matter. They are wrong. Condoms are not one hundred percent effective in protecting you from STIs. These infection can be transferred from kissing, skin to skin contact and other ways as well. So, it is important to know more rather than simply relying on condoms.
Relax. Don’t Overthink.
Don’t stress yourself out. The conversation is going to go a lot better than you think it would. Just be tactful, try not to come across as rude or judgmental – express your interest in pursuing a sexual relationship while letting them know your valid concerns about health and safety. After all, safety comes first.