A recent study shows that about 20 percent of people in America fall victim to sexual assault – and get traumatized by its aftermaths. If someone you are close to, is experiencing aftereffects of being sexually assaulted, you of all the people would want to help them recover, right?
If your partner has been a victim of sexual assault & going through Sexual Trauma, intimate aspects of your relationship might get highly affected by it and you may feel angry and frustrated – but it’s okay. Sometimes, it’s a lot harder to accept the changes that may befall upon you. However, your partner needs you to support and help them recover from the traumatizing experience – display of aggression and violence could harm their mental health beyond recovery.
- Make sure you portray your love and support in a conceivable way. If you reassure your partner that the assault was not their fault, it will build an empathetic bond between you and your partner. It will help your partner understand that you are there to listen and support them. So, always remind your loved ones that nothing they did or didn’t do could make them culpable.
- Be patient – give them space. As much as you want to help your partner, forcing them to talk about their experience should not be the way. You shouldn’t ever urge them to stop rehashing the past.
After being victimized, some people prefer not talking about it, while others might mention it over and over again. So it’s important to understand your partner’s emotions. And accordingly, let them have their own time and space – it might get frustrating for you, but be patient. Let them know that you are there to listen as soon as they’re ready to talk.
- Practice self-care. Encouraging your loved ones to seek professional help is a very good way to help recover. But do NOT force them. As mentioned above, show them support. This means if your partner wants to go see a therapist, make sure you encourage their decision. Sex therapy and support groups are very helpful to people who want to recover from sexual trauma.
It’s important to know that first, you need to be in control of your emotions and feelings and then you can truly help your partner – letting your emotions get in the way could push your partner only further away. All of the above-mentioned techniques require you to be as patient as you can. Once your partner is recovering from their traumatizing experience, be there to honor their recover.